For the ones who still want love. And are so done with the other gender.

How to finally find the love you've been looking for.

You've been hurt. You've been disappointed. You've watched enough, read enough, experienced enough to know how this Date goes.

So you walk in already knowing. Already braced. Already half-gone before it even starts.

And somehow it always ends exactly the way you knew it would.

That's not bad luck. That's not the wrong people. That's what happens when you stop seeing the person in front of you and start seeing your proof.

Training Unmasked is four sessions where you learn to see the actual person in front of you, not the story you've been carrying about them.

"I learned more about myself in 2 hours than in months of therapy."
Previous Unmasked Participant
4 sessions online via Zoom  ·  Max 15 participants
Saturdays 16:00 Bali  ·  10:00 Berlin
€150
Starter price, experimental space, real work. · Limited to 15 spots
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Do you know the feeling when...
...you go on a date and you're already waiting for the moment it goes wrong.
...you try to open up. And somehow it still gets misunderstood.
...you explain yourself for the hundredth time. And feel more alone than before you started.
...you catch yourself thinking "typical." You know it's not fair. But you can't stop.
...you really want to trust the other gender. But everything you've experienced tells you not to.
...you end up at the same place again. Different person. Same feeling.

It's not them. It's not you either. It's the distance between you, and the stories you both carry across it.

You don't need another podcast about why men and women are different. You don't need more theory or advice. You just need an authentic and open conversation with one.

That's what this training is about.

What participants say

Here's what actually happens in the room


★★★★★
"Authentic feedback from people of the other gender helped me question negative beliefs about myself. I didn't expect so much to happen in under 2 hours."
D. Chandon
★★★★★
"Seeing how insecurity works in other people allowed me to see my own dynamic. How I sabotage good things by believing in my insecurities."
Pawel
★★★★★
"Fabulous event for anyone looking to get beyond small talk and actually connect on a very human level."
Mar Rosati
★★★★★
"I always leave with feelings of release and reflection, and most importantly, an experience of raw and authentic connection."
Shan Stride
Silja Silbuch
My Story

I read all the books. It didn't help.

Why Men Love Bitches. The Game. The Way of the Superior Man. I read them all. I took the courses. I genuinely thought: if I just understand them better, something will finally change in my dating life.

The more I learned, the more I saw patterns and types instead of people. I wasn't getting closer to men. I was building a better theory about them.

The thing that actually changed something was in 2021, during an Authentic Relating training. Men's circle, women's circle, the other gender just listening. I sat there and listened to men talk about what it's actually like to be a man today.

I realized I had been carrying a picture of men for years. And I had been dating that picture. Not actual men.

That's when I understood what was really broken. We've both been told who the other one is. How to act around each other. But we never learned how to just be authentically ourselves, or how to receive the authentic expression of each other.

Since then I've run 100+ workshops in six countries. I've helped men and women understand and connect with each other, be authentic, and actually listen. People have found their community, their best friends, and their partners at my workshops. Being in a space where you're genuinely welcomed and seen is the only thing that actually changes something.

Certified Embodiment Coach  ·  Authentic Relating Facilitator  ·  Trauma-informed

Before

  • A fixed idea of what the other gender is really like
  • Walking into every date already knowing how it ends
  • So tired of dating you've stopped expecting anything
  • Bracing yourself before they even say a word
  • Feeling used, misunderstood, alone with your conclusions
  • Same disappointment, different person

After

  • Seeing the actual person in front of you, not the stereotype
  • Understanding why you keep attracting the same type
  • Catching your own patterns before they run the show
  • Meeting the other gender with curiosity instead of armor
  • Being in a room where you're welcomed exactly as you are
  • Knowing you don't have to perform to be worth loving
Introducing
The Unmasked Training

Session dates

  • Sat 6 June
  • Sat 13 June
  • 20 June — integration pause
  • Sat 27 June
  • Sat 4 July

Your local time

  • Bali (WITA)   16:00
  • Singapore    16:00
  • Germany     10:00
  • UK (BST)     09:00
  • New York     04:00

Sessions 1 and 4 run 2 hours. Sessions 2 and 3 run 2.5 hours. Each includes a 10-minute break. All sessions on Zoom.

€150

Starter price for this first experimental round. Includes all 4 sessions.

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How it works

What actually happens in the four sessions

This is not a lecture or theory. Across four sessions, we use embodiment exercises, Authentic Relating practices and honest exchange to connect across the gender divide and actually meet each other as people.

Embodiment Exercises

Practices that bring you into your body and out of your head, so you can be present with another person instead of running your story about them.

Authentic Relating

Structured conversations that go beneath the surface. You share what's actually true. The other gender does the same. Something shifts when you hear it directly.

Honest Exchange

Real people breaking down assumptions in real time and building the skills to connect more healthily, authentically and openly.

FAQ

Is this a dating event? +
No. Nobody is here to get matched or picked. It's a space to actually understand the other gender and yourself, through real conversation. What you take from that into your dating life is up to you.
Is this an anti-men or anti-women space? +
No. This isn't about blaming anyone. Both sides are exhausted. Both sides want connection. The whole point is to drop the sides and actually meet each other as people. You're welcome here exactly as you are.
I'm pretty skeptical that anything can really change. Is this for me? +
Honestly, that's a good starting point. You don't need to believe anything going in. Most people come carrying a fixed idea of the other gender. The work is simply meeting real people instead. You can stay skeptical and still be surprised.
Do I have to share things I'm not comfortable with? +
No. You decide how deep you go, always. You can be open and still keep boundaries around what you share. There's no pressure to perform vulnerability here.