Anybody else?!

Today I want to share more about my favorite authentic relating (ART) game: “Anybody Else”.

I absolutely love the game “Anybody Else”; it changed my worldview when I first played it in May 2021 in Ubud, Bali.

Maybe you know that game; if not, I will share detailed instructions further down.

I always felt that I was the only one who struggles with social anxiety, the fear of being "not good enough," and that what happened to me made me a flawed and broken person. I learned as a kid that the way I am isn't good enough; this mindset followed me into adulthood.

Within this game, I realized that I am not the only one with a horrible childhood, a fear of abandonment, bad choices, and bad taste in men. I was one of many who struggled, fell flat on her face, and had a hard time standing up again. I am one of many! I wasn't special, and that released me.

During the seven-day retreat, I met so many incredible people who I now love and trust. They all had similar experiences, but it didn't make them bad people; rather, it helped to shape and make them human.

There was so much shame and embarrassment around certain areas of my life that I never wanted to publicly share with anyone out of fear of being rejected or laughed at. Especially when you have been single like me for some time, it's really easy to get really weird and caught up in destructive thought patterns. This game is all about reveiling this old shame and embarrassment and realizing that there are other people out there feeling, thinking, or going through something similar.

Until this game, I was so used to wearing a mask and hiding my true self behind it. Living like that was exhausting, and I honestly didn't like myself.

But this game has the power to free people and let them embrace themselves completely for who they really are (and we've all heard the proverb "that the truth will set us free"). A powerful healing container is created when we accept ourselves in all of our beauty and all of our darkness while being seen and embraced by others.

"Anybody else" helped me to be more forgiving of myself and hold my own human experience with more grace. That's why I love to play that game, because it changed and helped me so much. One of the most powerful ART games out there.

I am offering right now free authentic relating influenced coaching sessions for anyone struggeling with relationship issues, if you want to try it out, please reach out to me over email (info @ silbuch.de)

Anybody else?

Setup: Full Group Time: 10-20 min

Directions: Set chairs in a circle, with one less chair than the number of people present. The displaced person stands in the center and says something that is true for him or her - for example, “I’m left-handed,” “I feel uncomfortable about my height,” or “I’m attracted to at least one person in this room”​ - and then asks,​ “anybody else?” ​Anybody who has had the same experience, attribute, etc. stands up and rushes across the circle to a new chair. Participants cannot sit back in the chair from which they stood up, or in the chair on either side of that one. Play for 10-20 minutes, or until the energy starts to flag.

(Source: Authentic relating Game Night Manuel)